I already did. It's us who decide, not Monsanto!!!
Inertia is one of the biggest faults of human mind. Some people are totally addicted to the status quo, not because it's so good, but because they're so hell scared by what could eventually happen. By the unknown. While in some cases, precautions are advisable, this fear can be taken to unbelievable highs by the weak-hearted. Or those who pretend to be such, even if in fact, they don't need that fear, nor those precautions.
Why I start from so far away? Because I grow more and more wary of the hysteria around marriage and its place in our society. Some people seem to identify marriage with everything good, important and generally positive in life. Hollywood romantic nonsenses playing a significant role in this strange notion.
The thing is that the idea of marriage is not universal, even if the mystery of marriage is. But I'm not going to discuss religious mysteries now, because I don't think they have anything to do with the majority of people. For most people, marriage is nothing more than a civil union giving them certain privilleges and social status and of course, the illusionary security we all dream of. It's not a religious thing, but a social one.
So if we speak of the marriage as a civil union, we should be aware that they are many types of marriage - monogamous, polygamous (1 husband and many wives, up to 4 in the Muslim case) or polyandrous (one wife, many husbands, like in some Amazon tribes, Asian people - see One Bride for 2 Brothers: A Custom Fades in India, and also in ancient times in tribes like the Sarmatians, part of the Thracians familly). We also have the abstention of nuns, monks and many others and of course, the numerous people who get divorced for one reason or other and later can have happier or worst life with a new spouse or without any.
So marriage is something much wider than what usual romantic comedy has to offer us - one girl, one boy, love till the end of the world.
Marriage has many faces and there is absolutely no need or cause to seek to unite them into the face of a heterosexual couple in love forever. There is nothing sacral in civil union. At least for me, at the moment when the state enters in the ritual, the holy part of it flies away. Because the mystery is a mystery of the heart, not of lawyers and other official beings which seek to suck your money and freedom, by putting your life in the cage of written words and contracts. For me, matters of the heart can not and should not be a matter of the authorities, they should be solved only by the people affected. But since we live in society, some things require some amount of paper to be signed and this is where the states enters. And it is my utter belief that the state has no right to discriminate between men, women and their numbers in such documents. After all, if we speak of a contract, it should be up to the people who want to sign it, what arrangements should be made and so on.
In short, I believe we should live and let others live their life the way they want it. I have no problem with a family of two men, two women, or 3 women or 2 women and one man or 2 men and one woman or whatever. It's their choice and as long as they don't hurt my rights in any way, they are free to do whatever they please. And I don't see how their civil union may affect me. So what's the problem. Let the people love themselves in any way they see fit.
I'm quite glad to see that the world is slowly riping for this idea and homosexual marriages and also civil unions gain to wider and wider acceptance. For me this is normal. But I don't understand, why still polygamy and polyandry are not discussed at all. After all, only the number changes, the idea remains the same. It is a contract you sign and if you're not happy with it, you can always leave behind. Then what's the problem?! It might get little bit more complicated, but so what - it's not like we already don't have so many complicated issues, one more or one less doesn't make a difference. But reforming the marriage as an idea will bring so much more freedom to the people. Freedom from the state, that is.
There is one more aspect i would like to comment and it's the financial aspect. I don't quite get why should married couples or couples as a whole have tax-exemptions and other privileges that single people don't have. The obvious reason is that starting a family requires money. Fair enough. But usually, having or expecting children is not the definition of a couple. It's their civil status. So, the state doesn't care about the children, not directly, at least. Instead, it helps couples with the presumption they will have children. Well, I think this is discriminatory. Because single people are not worst than married people. And financial support should be given to promote something that is socially good. Coupling of people is not socially good. Having children is socially good. So for me, instead of having all this discussions for marriage, which for me is a dying institution anyway (see the news for France below), the discussion should be for rethinking of the definitions of our society and its needs. Rethinking how to promote what is worth promoting, to support what is worth supporting and let people enjoy their lives without interference in at least this aspect of their life. But do you see that discussion anywhere? I don't. And I really would like to see it at some point.
New York Allows Same-Sex Marriage, Becoming Largest State to Pass Law - Lawmakers voted late Friday to legalize same-sex marriage, making New York the largest state where gay and lesbian couples will be able to wed.
Senator Mark J. Grisanti, a Republican from Buffalo who had sought office promising to oppose same-sex marriage, told his colleagues he had agonized for months before concluding he had been wrong.
“I apologize for those who feel offended,” Mr. Grisanti said, adding, “I cannot deny a person, a human being, a taxpayer, a worker, the people of my district and across this state, the State of New York, and those people who make this the great state that it is the same rights that I have with my wife.”
Polygamist, Under Scrutiny in Utah, Plans Suit to Challenge Law -
The family is the focus of a reality TV show, “Sister Wives,” that first appeared in 2010. Law enforcement officials in the Browns’ home state, Utah, announced soon after the show began that the family was under investigation for violating the state law prohibiting polygamy.
On Wednesday, the Browns are expected to file a lawsuit to challenge the polygamy law.
Mr. Brown has a civil marriage with only one of his wives; the rest are “sister wives,” not formally wedded.
In France, Civil Unions Gain Favor Over Marriage - Whatever their reasons, and they vary widely, French couples are increasingly shunning traditional marriages and opting instead for civil unions, to the point that there are now two civil unions for every three marriages. When France created its system of civil unions in 1999, it was heralded as a revolution in gay rights, a relationship almost like marriage, but not quite. No one, though, anticipated how many couples would make use of the new law. Nor was it predicted that by 2009, the overwhelming majority of civil unions would be between straight couples.
It remains unclear whether the idea of a civil union, called a pacte civil de solidarité, or PACS, has responded to a shift in social attitudes or caused one. But it has proved remarkably well suited to France and its particularities about marriage, divorce, religion and taxes — and it can be dissolved with just a registered letter.
“The notion of eternal marriage has grown obsolete.”
France recognizes only “citizens,” and the country’s legal principles hold that special rights should not be accorded to particular groups or ethnicities. So civil unions, which confer most of the tax benefits and legal protections of marriage, were made available to everyone. (Marriage, on the other hand, remains restricted to heterosexuals.) But the attractiveness of civil unions to heterosexual couples was evident from the start. In 2000, just one year after the passage of the law, more than 75 percent of civil unions were signed between heterosexual couples. That trend has only strengthened since then: of the 173,045 civil unions signed in 2009, 95 percent were between heterosexual couples.
As with traditional marriages, civil unions allow couples to file joint tax returns, exempt spouses from inheritance taxes, permit partners to share insurance policies, ease access to residency permits for foreigners and make partners responsible for each other’s debts. Concluding a civil union requires little more than a single appearance before a judicial official, and ending one is even easier.
I had somewhat hard week so I really want to post about something positive now that I am able to. And one of the first news that caught my attention after all that time of Internet deprivation was that news of free South Sudan.
Why should the yet another splitting of a nation be a good news? Because Africa is a continent to which the Western civilization owes so much, we can hardly ever start to repay our debt. And all those conflicts we see there are because of us and supported by our money. And people die, because of our infinite greed. As you can see:
After Years of Struggle, South Sudan Becomes a New Nation - "A new nation was being born in what used to be a forlorn, war-racked patch of Africa, and to many it seemed nothing short of miraculous. After more than five decades of an underdog, guerrilla struggle and two million lives lost, the Republic of South Sudan, Africa’s 54th state, was about to declare its independence in front of a who’s who of Africa, including the president of the country letting it go: Omar Hassan al-Bashir of Sudan, a war-crimes suspect."
Two million lives lost. And unknown million of lives devastated by the wars and rapes and the never-ceasing violence. And now, finally, those people can have their chance of peace.
Don't be fooled, miracles are rare events. Everything has its price and I'm sure that this independence will not mark the immediate enrichment of South Sudanese people, but it is at least some progress. One enemy less for the guerrilla or so I hope.
What is important now, is for the world to offer a helping hand to South Sudan and to try to lead them trough the pains of getting back to normality. And hopefully, the natural treasures of that young country won't get sold to Europe too cheaply. Unfortunately corruption is overwhelming companion to poverty, but let's hope that cutting one level of theft will provide more money to the people on the bottom.
God Speed to the newest country in the world! At least this one deserves its independence.
Another absolutely unrelated news I'd like to share is the following:
NYC judge asked to throw out border search lawsuit - "A federal judge in New York City is questioning why laptops and smartphones should be excluded from random searches done by U.S. customs agents protecting the border.
The judge suggested Friday no cause is needed because the searches are meant to stop terror attacks."
In case you wonder what's the problem, well the problem is simple. When people travel with a laptop, they usually bring all the personal and professional files they have with them. Should a border-crossing allows the police (or border-control) to have unlimited by the law and by court view of ALL your life?! Why? What's the difference when you go to Canada from when you go from home to work? Does this mean that the police should have absolute access to the files of every person they wish, just because they have to stop eventual terrorists? I don't think so. I think that the idea of border police is to make sure you don't carry a weapon or anything dangerous for the others. If they suspect something about you, they must take a court order and then they have the right to check your files. And not before. That's why I think this news and this court decision, if left as it is, could bring a lot of damage to democracy and of course to airports traffic. Please, watch out! Because freedom is not something life owes you, it is something you fight for.
Have a great and sunny Sunday! :)